When You Feel Respected by Your Wife
Respect (appreciation and reverence) can be defined as thinking and feeling good things about a person, treating someone in a way that shows them that you care about their well-being, and considering them as a person of worth. In today’s cancel culture, this has become the norm, and men are placed on the back burner more than ever.
We fellas want to be cared for as well.
Wives, us earning something that should be already in you to share is a backwards approach to love and being one in marriage. When we are talking about men, being respected is different from being liked, and it is about sticking to your convictions and making the best decisions possible.
As a dude, I can think of numerous ways respect can be lost. However, it should already be on the table, at work and in the relationship. It is wanted, needed and important to us.
Fellas, we have to grab this…! To maintain respect, we should keep our promises, admit to our mistakes, be a good listener, conduct ourselves with integrity, demonstrate confidence, leadership, dependability, and kindness. All of these things takes work. Many of us have not seen many of them modeled well. If not, keep your eyes open. Those men are out there.
"Wives, Respect your Husband" -Ephesians 5:33
How do you best live out Ephesians 5:33, ladies? When your husband is not valued by you, it sends some rather loud words to not only his mind, but his emotions. We have them. We try to keep them guarded, so they are not abused and mocked.
When women are very good at pointing out their husbands’ faults and failures and punishing them for not meeting their needs, that only leads to discontent and distance in marriages. We all know that yelling, nagging, and belittling are disrespectful and ineffective. Maybe take a suggestion to tone it down a bit.
If you treat us like we matter, we act like we do. If you treat your man like a king, he will eventually act like one and his kingdom (home and job) will be managed well. Eventually, he will begin to treat you like a queen.
Instead of waiting for him to earn your respect, behave respectfully and watch him grow into the man GOD designed him to be.
When you respect your husband, you create a space where he feels valued, heard, and appreciated. Without mutual respect, relationships deteriorate into resentment, misunderstandings, and distancing in every way humanly possible.
Show your husband respect by valuing his input, expressing gratitude for his efforts, and communicating with both sympathy and empathy. Encourage him to pursue his goals and dreams and let him know that you believe in his abilities.
I will not speak about my wife much, but I will say this… We both have it good, because I believe that we BOTH ‘get it’. She respects me and I love her. In turn, I respect her, and she loves all over me in many ways. I enjoy being with her.
I can hear your grumbling and murmuring from here. “Really. Why is respect important in Marriage?”
Respect is the backbone of a strong marriage. Without it, love is very likely to weaken, communication will break down, and resentment will undoubtedly grow. Respect isn't about submission; it's about [mutual] admiration and support. When you respect your husband, you will build a strong foundation and create an environment of trust and safety. In that home, both of you can thrive.
This is not always fool proof, because there is always a bad apple in the bushel.
Respect tells your hubby:
"I see you”
“I hear you”
“I value what you bring to this relationship"
Do you think that a big part of the success in just about every marriage will depend on respect? Can you agree that, without it, the relationship may inevitably suffer? When both partners feel respected, they are more likely to invest emotionally, creating a cycle of mutual understanding and love.
We’ve been in and around marriage environments for over 20 years. I don’t know if anyone can claim to be an expert at anything. Let alone marriage. There is ALWAYS something to learn.
Here are some things I have seen around and agree with that works.
Respect strengthens emotional connection.
Attention shows you value him.
Encouragement fuels his confidence.
Kindness fosters deeper intimacy.
Gratitude enhances mutual respect.
One of the simplest, yet most meaningful ways to show respect to your husband is to be fully present when he's speaking. It is not always easy to stop what you are doing to hear what he is saying, but…
Distractions are everywhere! Even our own thoughts can pull us away from truly engaging in a conversation. Stuff is always going on. Right? However, when you give him your undivided attention, you send a powerful message that says, “You matter to me.”
My wife is really good at that. However, I must also choose the better time to get her attention. I have to be aware of the particular moment I approach her as well. I am not always good at that.
Being present and aware are huge.
I stumbled upon this testimonial:
“Twenty-five years ago, our marriage was on the brink of divorce. I was controlling, critical and disrespectful so my husband was defensive and angry. We were both Christians but neither of us was living a Sprit-filled life. I was letting my emotions determine my actions and thought it was his job to make me happy. Through a series of phenomena, we made a decision to rebuild our marriage.
We went to a Christian counselor who read Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” and the therapist said to the wife, “The only way you will win your husband back and stay married is if you begin to respect your husband.”
I hope that you, the reader, are also listening.