Loving Your Spouse: True Love is an Attitude

Loving your spouse can be a difficult undertaking, yet simple at the same time.

It’s no trick to understand your partner’s flaws and still choose to remain together. If we are willing to do some things our spouse enjoys, it makes life that much easier to navigate. Even if you don't feel like doing them, the amount of bonding agent that is applied to that relationship will be noticed in time. Some of those activities can foster a stronger connection because they assist you with meeting each other's emotional needs.

It is very faithful saying, “True Love is an Attitude.”

In the lives of many couples, especially in the early goings of marriage, it is likely that you will feel miserable. One or both of you would wonder, “if I’ve married the wrong person.”

This is a good spot to call on the One Who made you both. People often turn to Him when they feel desperate.  There will be days when you say to God, “I don’t know what else to do, and I am asking for Your help.” Even before you say those words of submission, I suggest that you pray.

In several marriages, that turns out to be the problem. ...the culprit.  “One or, the both of you don’t have the attitude of Christ toward your spouse”

When you choose to love your spouse in ways that have historically been foreign to you, and surrender to him/her, you will see things begin to turn around. Your attitude towards your mate will ultimately change for the good.

Stop blaming the other person of your marriage for your poor state. It is likely just as much your fault as it is theirs.

God can and will give you a new perspective. There must be an attitude shift in one or the both of you.

Regardless of how much you and I think we know, there is always something more to learn about and from our spouse. Please do not miss the whole point of love. Please learn the attitude of Christ toward your spouse. That attitude will come from the only Source of it. The Father of the Christ.

Here is a good tip of where to start. It may not be the words you would usually say, but they can give you a secure starting place.  

“Father, please let me see her as one whom You love and let me be Your agent for loving him.”

 It will likely be the greatest prayer you will ever utter. If you start today… If you start right now, you will no longer be waiting for warm feelings.