We Don’t Have Anything to Talk About Anymore #1

Sometimes, conversations are tough to come by. It does not mean that there is NOTHING to learn about your spouse though. Here is a simple suggestion. When “fishing” for something to talk about, an opinion is a good piece of “bait” to hopefully get you a “nibble.”

Some things may be a little tender or touchy, so, tread lightly.

Be sure to keep your conversations uplifting, positive, encouraging and affirming.  You may even call them “date night talks” or something corny like that.  Always know, your chat isn’t to criticize your spouse because of his or her views, it is another opportunity to learn. 

Marriage dynamics can be tricky sometimes. Slide into them, stroll in there or, just cannonball yourself in.

If you are wondering, “Does he have a few universal conversation starters?”  Yep. I do:

• “What is your favorite meal that I make?” & “What is special about it?”

• “In what ways do you feel encouraged in our marriage?”

• “What is the best gift I’ve ever given you?” & “Why is it so special?”

• “In what ways do you feel secure in our marriage?”

• “What do I do that is the biggest turn-on for you?”

• “Is there a particular Bible story or Scripture that has recently caused you to slow down and think on it longer than usual?”

• “What is your favorite tradition that we’ve started?”

• “What has been your favorite house or place we’ve lived?” & “Why?”

• “What is your favorite vacation we’ve taken together?” & “Why?”

• “What are some things I’ve done for you in the past that really made you feel loved?”

• “Where would you consider our special place to be?” & “Why is it meaningful to you?”

• “What’s the most romantic thing I’ve ever done for you?”

• Here is a toughie… “Out of all the date nights we’ve experienced together thus far, which one has been your favorite?” & “Why?”

• “What’s your version of our love story?”