Encouraging Your Spouse
One of the most effective ways to help your spouse is to be there. Yep. Being available it the first step. If we are not “there”, it will be mighty tough to be a supportive piece in that person’s life.
Words DO matter. Encouraging words matter BEST! There are many things we do that causes us to feel strong, or weak. Which would you rather feel?
The word encourage means “to inspire, cheer onward or give a boost.”
I have felt deflated over the years. Some of the best medicine I have taken os to have listened to my wife’s words of cheer. REALLY! That encounter often does is the most comforting technique possible. I did not need to hear it from a friend. I wanted it from her.
All of us have areas in which we feel insecure and lack bravery. That shortage of guts often hinders us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to do. The undeveloped potential within your spouse may await your reassuring words.
Perhaps your spouse has untapped potential in one or more areas of life. That potential may be awaiting your words. You see... You, above all people, should understand what he or she might need to hear.
Your words may supply the necessary courage to take that next or even the first step. Oh yeah... The right words at the correct time can be the impact and motivation that gets us in the rehab room, or out to look for another job.
Our children are not the “angels” we tell folks they are. Sneak up on them in class to watch. Parenting will suck the maternal/paternal life right out of you. When needed, you pain that smile back on over that smirk.
Your spouse is the one to say, “go take a break. I will take this one on.”
If we nurture our relationships, we will realize that we are really loved and supported, and the other spouse is not the enemy, but the ally.
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. The thing that holds us back is often lack of belief in ourselves. A loving spouse can supply that all-crucial catalyst.
Support Your Spouse!
Maybe you are thinking, “Sometimes this lack of support” is another way of saying, “My spouse will not go along with all my crazy ideas.” Don’t do that. If you realize the idea is “crazy”, it is likely “crazy” and could harm the relationship.
When we receive positive words, we are optimistic that there is another sun coming up in a few hours. When a man fails to get a promotion at work, he may feel that he is a failure. But when his wife says, “You’re still No. 1 in my book.” He has the courage to work through his disappointment and continue.
Supportive actions often spell the difference between success and failure. When your hubby expresses a desire to join a weight-loss program, don’t say this: “We can’t afford that. Why don’t you just stop eating?” Such an unsupportive attitude not only sabotages the hope and will but will likely also hurt the marriage. Helping your spouse succeed requires time, energy, effort and perhaps sacrifice on your part.
Hop to it!