Love for the Elderly is Like a Balm for the Soul
The time we spend with the aging can be soothing and healing for the wounds of their hearts.
Caring for the elderly does more than just help them—it enriches our own lives as well. It reminds us of the value of empathy and compassion and teaches us patience and respect. Their wisdom and stories can offer perspective and insight that we might not find anywhere else. It's truly a mutual exchange of love and learning.
Time is only one, but certainly the most valued show of love and care. Here are a few ways to make the most of your time together:
Older people often have fascinating life experiences and wisdom to share. Take the time to listen to their stories and learn from their past. Ask questions. The amazement that you will experience from the answers you will receive will often give you another question, or 4.
If you can find a few activities that you both enjoy, it would make the time fly by. It could be playing board games, gardening or cooking. My mother and I like playing Gin Rummy, watching movies, being silly and playing about 3 games of 10,000.
I like taking my mom out for breakfast, but as she ages, that has become a bit more difficult for her. However, sharing a meal can be a wonderful way to connect. As for you, if you two enjoy it, cooking together could be a great way to add to your library of meals.
Earlier, I mentioned “asking questions.” Ask them to teach you a skill or hobby they love. This could be anything from knitting to woodworking.
Sometimes, just being there (in the room) and keeping them company is enough. Your presence can make a huge difference in their day. Listening to my mother, this is very true.
Respecting their independence is very important! You can even encourage them to continue doing things they enjoy and are capable of doing.
One of the favorite things my wife and I do when we go visit the nursing home to participate in exercises that causes them to think waaaaaaay back. We ask their children’s names and what was the worst time when they were in trouble. That question solicited some funny responses. …LOTS of laughter. If you are wondering, “if we shared our own stories?” Most certainly! When we share our stories, they share more of their memories.