Leading Your Wife
Biblically, to lead means a person has the ability to guide and/or direct.
The Hebrew verb "nachah" is such a word to assist our understanding. The proper context is seen when GOD is leading His people. …what a shepherd would be seen doing.
It conveys the idea of directing someone along a path or journey, both physically and spiritually.
If we are married and are working to lead our wives (family) spiritually, we must be actively engaged in our shared faith by initiating conversations about our beliefs, regularly praying together, studying Scripture as a couple, attending kehilla (church) services as a family, and setting a strong example of our own spiritual commitment. ALL of this is accomplished while we are always respecting her perspective and encouraging her individual growth in faith.
Basically, this is “leading by example and actively participating in spiritual practices with her, not dictating her beliefs.”
Brother, you have to be a model (good one) of the faith you are trying to lead her and your family towards.
How you demonstrate a strong relationship with GOD will be seen through your actions, prayer life, and Bible study habits.
How is your prayer life? Does it support her, or is it weak and lacking?
You can’t shove any of this down their throats, but give them the Food with care, compassion and love for them as you try to explain it to them as you are learning It from the Spirit of the LORD. By this, you are encouraging their spiritual growth.
The Spirit of GOD is gentle and loving. If you are not showing these attributes, it is time to step back to ask the LORD, “Am I allowing You to lead me?”
With that, avoid being controlling or domineering, instead focus on nurturing your relationship with her and her relationship with the Father in a loving and respectful manner.
Leading with GOD’s Love and His Humility are BIG keys to helping anyone, especially your wife. Again, if she does not see it in you…
We ALL have struggles, weaknesses and concerns (natural and spiritual). Pay attention to what hers may be. Find ways to offer support and encouragement and listen during it all. Avoid the usual distractions we have and fall prey to.
Communicate openly and don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t know.” Be open to discussing your expectations and concerns regarding spiritual leadership in your marriage to ensure understanding. She will see the maturity in you and your leadership.
Be willing to learn from the Spirit as He is showing you both stuff. By design, women are more willing to be submissive Biblically, thus, she will be sensitive to spiritual things.
Oh… Be open to learning from your wife and growing together in your faith of knowing and understanding ADONAI.